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Never Give Up!

Contributed By: Tre’ Gammage

“There is two types of people in the world, those that make things happen, and those that watch things happen”

Top Takeaways

  • Take things to the next level
  • Becoming more consistent
  • Why do you do what you do

Quotes

“Two types of people in the world, those that make things happen and those that watch things happen.”

“I never understood how important consistency was, there should be strategy to what you do”

Side notes

  • Networking
  • Vision board
  • Breaking down goal setting

Hiking is Life!

My recent trip to Colorado Springs, CO was when I  first discovered my love for hiking. My hiking trip at Garden of the Gods was definitely a life changing experience that I would never forget. During my transition of moving to Atlanta, I got so consumed living in such a big city, I totally forgot that the most beautiful creation by God is nature.

The wonderful feeling of being out in nature, away from the big city, disconnected from technology allowed me to connect with nature in a way that brings about peace and a sense of well-being that I never wanted to let go. Hiking has become my best medicine, giving me a place to escape from all my problems, be free and to clear mind. Even though it was a challenging experience, I was able to leave with a high dosage of determination and motivation for my next hike. The love and respect I’ve gained from hiking have grown into one of my best hobbies that I will continue to share with the world.

Follow me as I continue my hiking journey!! Check out my 5 top picks of great places to hike with amazing waterfalls in the Southeast.

 

Ruby Falls – Chattanooga, TN


Cumberland Falls – Corbin, KY

 

Toccoa Falls – Stephens County, GA

Lower White Falls – Oconee County, SC

Amicalola Falls – Dawsonville, GA

 

Mental Illness in the Black Community

Blog Contributors: Francheska “Fancy” Felder & Quendole “Que” Johnson

While more entrepreneurs are coming forward and talking about mental health issues, mental health continues to carry a stigma within the Black community. Through their work with Let’s Be Real Society, co-founders, Fancy (publisher of SwagHer Magazine) and Que (host of The Purple Girl Show) often noticed mental health was and is the source of many issues plaguing the Black community. They also realized it was even causing setbacks in their own personal lives and business. Last month, they decided they would recommit to their brand and vision, so upon the release of Future’s “Hndrxx” album and inspired by his song, “Fresh Air”, Fancy suggested they come forward and openly address what living with depression and anxiety is like. Together the two opened up and shared their inner thoughts to raise awareness for others suffering in silence.

Fancy

“I don’t know what that feels like.” “But Fran I can’t imagine how that might feel.” These are the similar things I’ve heard while trying to explain to loved ones how it feels to live with depression and anxiety. Depending on the person, they may actually pause for a minute and try to imagine the pain, the weight- THE WAIT- the doubt, the negative thoughts I battle within my own head daily. And if you are like my ex (who wasn’t my ex), then you simply blow it off and go back to real sh**, like how you are going to blow money you don’t really have in the club to hide the pain you are carrying). If you are a more caring person, then you may really try to understand but can’t.

For this reason, I began practicing how to describe this feeling, because I think if people know how it feels then maybe more can be done about it, instead of trying to force controlled drugs and propaganda on us.

Greetings, I’m Francheska Felder, but I go by Fancy, and I suffer with both anxiety and depression often. In a study conducted by CNN, “The Dark Side of Creativity: Depression + Anxiety x Madness = Genius”. It was discovered that creatives suffer from “unusually high mood disorders”.

Vincent Van Gogh described it as the following to his brother Theo in a letter, “I am unable to describe exactly what is the matter with me. Now and then there are horrible fits of anxiety, apparently without cause, or otherwise a feeling of emptiness and fatigue in the head… at times I have attacks of melancholy and of atrocious remorse.”

Think back to a time you had a bad thought, for example the thought of losing a loved one. They’re fine right now but the thought just crosses your mind. Ok now did you cut it off and resume your day? In my experiences with depression, my thoughts continue to spiral downward. Now I’m thinking of this person passing, and how they will leave others behind, and how one day I will too, and how there’s so much pain the world, and why is there so much pain, why do we create things like greed, lust, and division amongst us…. and you see where this is going?

I can’t turn them off. I have to work to control them. That’s depression for me.

Other times, I’m waiting for something to happen. What I don’t know, but it’s a big test. Everything is a big test, and I’m waiting but I’m nervous as hell. I’ve studied, I’ve failed. I’ve studied harder. I have opened my mind. I have revamped. I’m ready. Put me in the game coach- but wait I’m going to be sick.

“I need fresh air! I need to get out on my own.” (Future, 2017, Track 8).

Both depression and anxiety have caused me to ruin or miss important moments in my life and career. They have held me back from growing into the woman I aspire to be, but this year I decided I could no longer live trapped in my own mind. I must face these illnesses head on.

 

Que

” I can’t breathe” we all heard this phrase before. Rather it was from a senseless act to an asthma attack! Have you ever considered there are people in your face every day who can’t breathe and you don’t even know it! Yep, I am one of those people. Hi, my name is Que Johnson I’m a mother, entrepreneur, smart- oh did I mention cute, and I suffer from anxiety -a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome. Physiatrist describe it as a nervous disorder characterized by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks.

Although it’s not life threating, and it doesn’t have life expectancy on how long you will live with it, it can affect your day to day activities. Women are twice more likely to suffer from it than men. According to the HHS office of Minority Health Black/African American, adults are 20% more likely to report serious phycological distress than white adults!

Now that you have a clearer understanding, I want to let those know who are suffering in silence “you are NOT alone” (Michael Jackson, 1995), (one of my favorite Michael Jackson songs), but really you’re not!

I made the decision to no longer hide, be embarrassed and could care less what people think! Anxiety has at times crippled my decision making, ruined relationships, put off projects. It has pretty much slowed me down from things that were very important to me.

When it came time to do certain things or be around certain people my anxiety symptoms would start to flare up like getting light headed, or a headache, constant nervousness in my stomach sometimes even vomiting. I would get the shakes, sweat or just completely shut down! How do you share this with people? I didn’t, but you can!

It’s time for “Fresh Air” take a deep breathe in and exhale the bull$h!t!  It’s time to live again. People say you only live once, but I don’t believe that. You only die once, but you can live again each day you have breath in your body. I’m not completely healed from anxiety, but it no longer has me in bondage! I feel free. Ain’t nobody got time for that!

Let’s be real about this! You cannot do this alone. If you feel that you are, shoot us an email, creators@letsberealsociety.org  or join our Facebook group, “Let’s Be Real Society- Breathe”.

I Survived The Quarter Life Crisis

My early 20s was the most difficult time in my life. After graduating, from college, with a degree in Mass Communications I was elated and optimistic about starting my career. I had it all figured out and my plans was to have my dream job by 25, get married and build my beautiful home by 28. Well, this plan didn’t work at all and in reality my life felt like a total disaster. After the many rejections in finding the perfect job, I gave up and settled for a position working at a call center for almost two years. In addition, I felt lonely living a single life and building my dream home was out the question (it was more like living home with my parents until I found out exactly what I wanted to do). I was having a quarter life crisis and the thought that this was happening to me made me I’ve became dissatisfied with the life.

During this time, in my life, I was filled with so much anxiety. I knew something had to change and if I wanted a better life it started with me.  After coming across one of my favorite scriptures gave confirmation that even though my life didn’t turn out how I plan doesn’t mean it was over. It was just the beginning and it was up to me to make these changes.

For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. – Jeremiah 29:11

My first big change was creating a list of commitments that would help me overcome my quarter life crisis. After relocating and living in the beautiful city of Atlanta for almost a year, I’ve learn so much about myself, I gained hope again and best of all I was able to find my purpose. My commitments have truly shaped me into the person I am today and I truly believe anyone who’s definitely feeling lost in their 20s can make start to find hope again by incorporating these habits into your lives daily.

Enjoy the struggle. The journey of finding your purpose is such a beautiful thing. Whether you’re having trouble finding the perfect job, struggling financially or finding happiness you’ll appreciate it much more.

Take risks. You will never lose taking a chance. It can be a blessing or lesson. The most successful people in this world took risks. If you don’t try you’ll never know how perfect somethings would turn out.

Meet new people. Hello… the secret to success is networking. Building long lasting relationships with people who have similar goals will help you achieve your ultimate goals.

Travel. Traveling is always a great way to overcome any issues. With the many benefits including broadening your horizon, building confidence and creating memories for a lifetime, you’ll be able to appreciate life more with much gratitude.

Try a new hobby. Go hiking, swimming, join a speaking group or a cooking class. The key is to learn how to step outside of your comfort zone and commit to something. The feeling of completing a task of something you’ve never imagined doing is amazing.

Stop comparing yourself to others.  The worst thing you could ever do is compare your life to others.  Comparing the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume of others is a losing battle. Everyone has their own gifts, talents and purpose.  Be you. Be unique. Shine like the star you are.

 

Preparing Your Child

“Wealth is built through generations, at some point you have to say I’m going to live better for my kids so they don’t have to start from 0.” 

Contributed By | Andre Gammage 

Preparing Your Child for Education is a program designed to provide parents with the appropriate resources and skills necessary to create an effective environment that prepares young children for their education. Judge Gammage has combined his 20 years as managing The Law offices of Berger & Gammage, with 3 years as Magistrate Judge in St. Joseph County Indiana.  Judge Gammage has also raised 4 children who are prospering due to the opportunities put in front of them. 

In Episode 4 we get the perspective from inside the court room, the Judge, and Defense Attorney who stood next to the parent before watching their child go to jail. 

Top Takeaways

1)      Have you done enough

2)      Preparing your child

3)      Help people help themselves

Quotes 

“Your child isn’t born bad or good, they are a blank slate, and you make that child”

“Pyce helps you create a better environment so your child see’s success in you, which brings success to the child.

“Have you put in the effort to hone your skills and get better”

“Wealth is built through generations, at some point you have to say I’m going to do  better for my kids so they don’t have to start from 0.”

Side Note

1)      Election Impact

2)     Your Child is a blank slate.

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[Video] What’s Going On with Open For Business Co-working Space Atlanta

Contributed By: Katrina Garnes

Online social spaces have allowed me to access a world beyond the rural area of South Carolina that I once called home. I was able to create new and innovative concepts for my area and collaborate with like-minded and diverse individuals. However, it was social spaces like Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter that allowed me to see the broader scope of ideas and niche concepts that brands and businesses were creating miles away. My friends would define my personality as being obsessive.

Jasmyne Summers Talks Fashion and Creativity

Jasmyne Summers is a 23 year old fashion designer who is destined to be great in the fashion world. She believes that she would not be in the place she is now in her life it is wasn’t for Gods plan. Hailing from Statesboro, GA, she moved to Atlanta, GA to build her brand collection named Page XVII By: Jasmyne S. Page XVII represents her birthday May 17, 1992. Her collection can be described as chic, classic and elegant wear just for women. The collection targets an audience of young and older women whether they are at work, church, a luncheon, a banquet or a special event. Jazmyne believes before we were born God had a plan and a destiny for our lives. Her philosophy is, only through his guidance are we able to figure out what we have been called on this Earth to do. She feels that the name of her clothing line is relatable because everyone has a birthday and a destiny to fulfill. Her moto is that life is like a storybook. Everyone has a story, but what page does yours begin on?

What It Means To Be Alive

Often times we allow certain circumstances and triumphs to define our lives. We tend to get stuck and consumed with temporary moments. However, have you taken the time to reflect on what it means to be alive? Luckily, I had the chance to sit down with actor, singer and songwriter Torion Sellers. Sellers is a shy yet confident artist on the rise here in Atlanta, Georgia. We recently had the opportunity to discuss his new EP release, his acting debut in Barbershop 3 and much more!

[VIDEO] What’s Going On with WE tv’s Match Made In Heaven

Recently, I was invited to attend the red carpet premiere screening of WE tv’s new season of “Match Made in Heaven,” executive produced by Sherri Shepherd and starring Stevie Baggs. The screening took place at the Woodruff Arts Center in Downtown Atlanta. There, I was able to converse with Baggs and Shepherd about the new season of Match Made In Heaven.

There I also chatted with cast members of Real House Wives of Atlanta, Cutting It in the ATL, Braxton Family Values and much more. To watch the interview in its entirety click here or view the video below. Yesterday night several of these shows premiered I would love for you to leave your feedback below!

Essence Festival 2016

The “Party with a Purpose” also known as the ESSENCE Festival is only four months away. It all started in the early 90’s, when ESSENCE magazine wanted to embark on a ground breaking concept. Little did they know, this new and creative idea would turn into one of the most sought after cultural and musical events in the U.S. This lifestyle magazine for African American women made the decision to create a festival of contemporary black music and culture. The only thing they knew was that they wanted the scenery to be somewhere everyone could enjoy great summer food, music, and fun. Having their eyes naturally on New Orleans, since it was the birthplace of Jazz and one of the starting points of Rock&Roll, Rhythm&Blues, Rap and other musical genres in the African American culture and tradition, they begin making preparations to host there first festival in the “Big Easy”.