I Survived The Quarter Life Crisis

My early 20s was the most difficult time in my life. After graduating, from college, with a degree in Mass Communications I was elated and optimistic about starting my career. I had it all figured out and my plans was to have my dream job by 25, get married and build my beautiful home by 28. Well, this plan didn’t work at all and in reality my life felt like a total disaster. After the many rejections in finding the perfect job, I gave up and settled for a position working at a call center for almost two years. In addition, I felt lonely living a single life and building my dream home was out the question (it was more like living home with my parents until I found out exactly what I wanted to do). I was having a quarter life crisis and the thought that this was happening to me made me I’ve became dissatisfied with the life.

During this time, in my life, I was filled with so much anxiety. I knew something had to change and if I wanted a better life it started with me.  After coming across one of my favorite scriptures gave confirmation that even though my life didn’t turn out how I plan doesn’t mean it was over. It was just the beginning and it was up to me to make these changes.

For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. – Jeremiah 29:11

My first big change was creating a list of commitments that would help me overcome my quarter life crisis. After relocating and living in the beautiful city of Atlanta for almost a year, I’ve learn so much about myself, I gained hope again and best of all I was able to find my purpose. My commitments have truly shaped me into the person I am today and I truly believe anyone who’s definitely feeling lost in their 20s can make start to find hope again by incorporating these habits into your lives daily.

Enjoy the struggle. The journey of finding your purpose is such a beautiful thing. Whether you’re having trouble finding the perfect job, struggling financially or finding happiness you’ll appreciate it much more.

Take risks. You will never lose taking a chance. It can be a blessing or lesson. The most successful people in this world took risks. If you don’t try you’ll never know how perfect somethings would turn out.

Meet new people. Hello… the secret to success is networking. Building long lasting relationships with people who have similar goals will help you achieve your ultimate goals.

Travel. Traveling is always a great way to overcome any issues. With the many benefits including broadening your horizon, building confidence and creating memories for a lifetime, you’ll be able to appreciate life more with much gratitude.

Try a new hobby. Go hiking, swimming, join a speaking group or a cooking class. The key is to learn how to step outside of your comfort zone and commit to something. The feeling of completing a task of something you’ve never imagined doing is amazing.

Stop comparing yourself to others.  The worst thing you could ever do is compare your life to others.  Comparing the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume of others is a losing battle. Everyone has their own gifts, talents and purpose.  Be you. Be unique. Shine like the star you are.


Paving the Way for Women of Color in Corporate America

Contributed By: Chynna Tomlin and Katrina Garnes

What’s Going On had the opportunity to speak with Jasmin Forts, creator of career consulting business Jobbing With Jas. Jasmin recognized early on that there were limited resources and mentorship opportunities for young women of color in the corporate workplace. She saw the need to “make a seat at the table” for exceptional women that needed that extra bit of guidance to reach their full potential.

Cantu Men’s Collection Launch Atlanta

On Friday (Feb. 10) Cantu Beauty celebrated the launch of there first men’s collection in Atlanta, Georgia at Live Edge Restaurant and Bar. Not only was the event exclusive, but guests got to mingle red carpet style alongside Cantu Beauty Ambassadors.

Event attendees were gifted with complimentary cocktails and Hors d’oeuvres, a bourbon tasting (complementary J.R. Revelry), specially crafted Cantu Cigars, free products and a “Cantu Barbershop” with live demos. We took a few photos of the event that can be found in the gallery above. Find more pictures by following the hashtag #doyouwithcantu.

Luvvie’s Side-Eye Got a Seat at the Table With Shonda Rhimes

Your brand is what people say about you when you’re not in the roomLuvvie Ajayi

This is a quote from one of my favorite people to follow online. Luvvie is the voice of Awesomely Luvvie, a humor and pop culture blog. She’s also an activist, author and branding expert. She’s built her business from the ground up for the last 9 years and has a huge social media following that boasts over 250,000 Facebook fans — all built organically.

I found out about Luvvie from one of her Scandal recaps. I googled “scandal + recap + funny” and she was the first person that popped up in the search results. That was in late 2012 and I’ve been HOOKED to following her ever since!

She’s gotten shout outs from Shonda Rhimes (hell, even Shonda wrote a blurb for her book) to taking selfies with lead actress on the show, Kerry Washington, Luvvie has built a community through her work. And when things get serious in the world, like the tragic events that took place in Charleston, South Carolina (my home state) two summers ago, or political opinions and her absolutely despise for President Trump, she’s able to share her thoughts in a way that’s tactful and truthful.

She’s managed to create an experience like no other.

You want your personal brand to be thought of the same way.

When I think of Luvvie, I think of someone that’s funny as hell and serious about their work. She’s created a fine line that’s very hard for a lot of humor bloggers to do. When I’m having a bad day and I need to cheer myself up, I visit AwesomelyLuvvie.com and read a few of her blogs to pick up my energy. Her brand makes me feel happy.

Now take what I just said and let’s create a lesson here: What kind of experience do you want to create for your audience? How do you want people to feel when they connect with you, whether through your blog, social media, or email?

Luvvie’s ability to master this has made her a New York Times bestseller within ONE WEEK!

And to make the deal even sweeter, less than six months later it was announced on Tuesday that Mother of Thursday night television, Shonda Rhimes, will turn I’m Judging You into a comedy show on ABC!

I’m so excited for Luvvie as I feel like I know her personally. She’s a Black woman that’s standing in her power and speaking her truth. Her authenticity has landed her a seat at the table with media Greats like Oprah Winfrey, who recognized her last year.

She’s my cousin in my head along with Beyoncé. Judge me. 😛

5 African American Women To Know in History

Every February, in recognition of Black History Month, we celebrate the achievements and rich contributions of African Americans in our society. African American history is full of groundbreaking activists and fearless leaders who have inspired the world. Though we are constantly reminded of many great leaders like Dr. Martin Luther King and Rosa Parks, there are so many more less recognized trailblazers celebrated. As an African American woman, I was excited to learn about the many women who fearlessly paved the way before me.

Check out 5 African American women who played a pivotal role in history and invoked changed:


Ida B. Wells (Civil Rights Activist, Journalist)

Ida B. Wells was an African-American journalist and activist who led an anti-lynching crusade in the United States in the 1890s. Wells established several civil rights organizations and formed the National Association of Colored Women.

Dorothy Height (Civil Rights Activist, Women’s Rights Activist)

American civil rights and women’s rights activist, a widely respected and influential leader of organizations focused primarily on improving the circumstances of and opportunities for African American women.

Gwendolyn Brooks (Poet)

Gwendolyn Brooks is one of the most highly regarded, highly influential, and widely read poets of 20th-century American poetry. She was a much-honored poet, even in her lifetime, with the distinction of being the first black author to win the Pulitzer Prize.

 Septima Poinsette Clark (Civil Rights Activist, Educator)

Septima Poinsette was an American educator and civil rights activist. Clark developed the literacy and citizenship workshops that played an important role in the drive for voting rights and civil rights for African Americans in the American Civil Rights Movement

Jane Bolin (Judge, Lawyer)

Jane Bolin was a trailblazing attorney who became the first African-American female judge in the United States, serving on New York’s Family Court for four decades.

Jalesa Ann Talks Breaking the Cycle of Financial Stress

It’s no secret, one of my favorite topics to write about is finance. You would think working at a bank my budgeting skills would be great, but it’s been one of my biggest challenges. For the past few months I’ve been able to learn and practice the importance of saving. In fact, I was able to reach my goal for my ultimate vacation 4 months earlier than my projected time of 8 months. Though this was a huge accomplishment for myself, much credit goes to the individual who inspired me to take control of my finances, the “Queen of Finance” and money mogul, Jalesa Ann.

Lisa Nicole Cloud “Ms. Millionaire Maker”

Contributed By: Johnerio Scott

When they say live with purpose, they mean live your dreams. Some may take it for granted but I know of a successful philanthropist that isn’t taking anything for granted, and that’s Lisa Nicole Cloud. Fashion designer, author, self-made millionaire, and star of Bravo’s hit television show “Married to Medicine” Lisa Nicole Cloud is doing everything possible to fulfill her life dreams and to help others in doing the same. She believes that success is a state of mind.

4 Reasons Women Should Support Other Women

Do women support each other as much as men do? We are starting to see women vocalizing their struggles in the workplace, stating that it’s so much harder to get ahead of their male counterparts. When these studies are done, many people ask why it is so. Some argue that men should understand that women have always been behind, and that patriarchy is alive and well. But what if the key lies in the fact that women don’t support each other as much as they should?